As a man from his beloved bring up an excellent wife
I was asked a question from a woman: “Can a man make a real mistress, a caretaker, a homemaker, a soft and pliable, supportive, infinitely faithful, happy, relaxed, smiling, rejoicing woman out of his wife? Is it possible? Or does it? only from women? ”
My answer: yes, sometimes it is possible. Conditions:
For a man, this woman is not one of many, but a favorite. To change yourself is to give up something of yourself in the past, and then a woman should know well why she needs it. She will agree to change herself if she understands and feels that she is not only refusing something, but also how much she gains. And most importantly, it acquires – for many years! – a decent man who really loves her.
A man can love. He brings her not just for his convenience, but taking care of her, her future and her happiness. Women sometimes tend to scold themselves – he will stop her in this and accustom himself to respect and appreciate. It can be difficult for women to remember their obligations – he will be her memory and her support, he will help her to do what she wants from herself and what they want together.
A man knows how to lead. That is to never swear, not to reproach, but to do two main things: to support and give clear prompts. If everything is in order, the man looks at his beloved and is not concealed by it. If something is not right – he says that you need to do something else or in another way.
It is important – this is a man who is not anyhow; this is a standing man for whom a woman will hold on. This is not just a standing man, this is a real man. He is fine with his mind, appearance, status and salary, he is a good lover and friend, an excellent father – in short, a woman has something to lose in choosing “With him or without him.”
And this man is not afraid to demand from his beloved. To demand only reasonable things and only in an appropriate situation, but – to demand and achieve that it will be executed. He is ready to discuss his requirements, he is ready to explain why this is necessary, but if he decided to demand it, it will not resolve anymore, you just need to accept it and not butt.
Yes, and requirements imply strict measures in case of non-compliance. Love is love, and behave as it should. It is to ensure that love lasts forever, it is necessary to ensure that both spouses behave in a decent way, keep themselves within. A real man loves his wife, is ready to pay for life with her at the highest rate, but if his wife (suddenly) ceased to be the one he loves, he is ready to part with it. This is an extreme measure, but he is ready for this, and the gap does not frighten him so much that he ceases to follow the reasonable rules in the family.
In Meshchera, an intelligent, talented and very charismatic young man addressed me with a question: I want to introduce the Family Constitution into my family, I want to start living in a new way, introduce new rules, but the spouse resists (they say, why is this necessary). What should I, advanced, do?
The first. Become the perfect husband. Golden man. So there is nothing to complain about. Can you To live like this for a week or two, better a month.
The second. After that, say as the head of the family: “My wife’s beloved, I want the following rules in our family from now on … I want to live in a family in which mutual respect and support reigns in which … (we list). Otherwise, I do not intend to live. Can we make such a family? Where do we start? ”
If a woman is smart, she will listen and agree.
If a man is a worthy and reasonable person, then the woman next to him is not anyhow anymore, but a reasonable one, and, in particular, this means that she is ready to listen to a man. As a self-respecting woman, she will not do it thoughtlessly, but by talking and understanding: why is it expected of her and what exactly is her husband asking for? On the other hand, if it is necessary, she will do it, that he is expected of her not only sometimes by mood, but always when necessary. She will listen to her husband seriously, how people behave at work.
Under these conditions, they will succeed: he will be a happy husband, and she is the best and beloved wife in the world. And if they are still familiar with the fact that such a distance, it will be easier and faster for them. Those who are familiar with Distance can work well on themselves, they can work intelligently and honestly.
If all these conditions are fulfilled – yes, they can succeed and most likely succeed. Yes, if you are not at the Distance – I recommend!