Oxytocin causes married men to stay away from temptresses
PROBLEM: As you know, oxytocin, a hormone secreted by the pituitary gland (especially during orgasm and childbirth), affects our behavior. It contributes to the emergence and development of a sense of affection, sometimes to the extent that we become conformists. Scientists from Germany have suggested that a small amount of the so-called “love hormone” while flirting with a sexual stranger can push us into a closer relationship and bring us to a risky connection with him.
RESEARCH METHODS: The group of scientists selected the most attractive woman who had to approach the tested men. Before the meeting, each of the 57 subjects were given oxytocin or placebo in the form of a nasal spray. An attractive female researcher was supposed to be at a distance of about 60 centimeters from a man. Then she approached the test subjects, after which she retreated. Men were asked to determine at what point an attractive woman was at the most ideal, in their opinion, distance. In addition, they had to indicate at what point it approached “too close” – so much so that they began to feel awkward.
After the experiment, the men confirmed that the attractive woman was actually attractive.
RESULTS: To the surprise of scientists, those men who were given oxytocin and who were married or maintained a steady relationship with one partner, preferred to stay at a greater distance from the attractive seductress — the hormone “turned on” the feeling of affection, but not to the stranger, but to partner playing in the life of a man an important role. They tried to keep a distance – on average, 10 – 15 centimeters farther compared to single subjects who were under the influence of oxytocin, or those of them who, instead of oxytocin, were given a placebo.
When a male researcher approached the test men (whose external attractiveness was dubious), they all behaved the same way. The difference arose regardless of the number of eye contacts with a man or a woman approaching them.
The perception of the external attractiveness of the woman by the tested men did not depend either on the presence of oxytocin in their blood, or on their constant partner.
CONCLUSION: Oxytocin contributes to the formation of monogamous relationships, not allowing men to “demonstrate their sensual interest” to other women.
CONCLUSION: If you have a permanent relationship with the same partner, but do not have aerosolized oxytocin on hand, there are many other ways to stimulate the release of oxytocin into the blood. Of course, sex, and still useful to hold hands, touch each other – all this contributes to the secretion of the hormone. But scientists warn: “it is quite obvious that in order to feel the effect of the hormone and to make sure that the partner is faithful, women must provoke the release of this hormone just before a situation arises in which her partner can see other women.”